Behavior Mindset

Fear Not, Doubt Not

Sometimes we win and sometimes we lose our battle against fear.

Stress is nothing more than fear for the result we expect from a situation we are in or will be. Fear of being late, fear of not being worth it, fear of failing, fear of not being good enough, fear of not being lovable, fear of not being deserving. Why do most people get stressed from simple daily tasks related to relationships, careers, health, or money? The answer is very simple: we take everything personally when nothing actually is. We get attached to the payoff whether it is good or bad.

We tend to want to control everything around us. The reality is that most of the time circumstances and surroundings control us, otherwise we would never be stressed. This lack of control is the reason we get stressed in the first place.  Let me also introduce the idea to you of payoff.  

Payoff is when we always get a little something out of negative or stressful situations. For example, we play the victim role, we get people to acknowledge us more, we draw attention to us in a positive or negative manner. 

Now you can see the patterns that are created by repeating this cycle of stress. The payoff is the reason we get attached to the same stress repeatedly. 

This situation is the reality of the majority of people in the world. They don’t own their life, they allow other people or surroundings to tell them how to live their life. The only thing that matters is YOU and what’s important to you, these should always go first. Take power in your life!

Health The Brain

Stress Hormones Run This Show

When we feel any kind of stress, for instance from being late to an event or from  being in a plane crash, the body releases cortisol. Cortisol is released by our adrenal system, which manages several hormones. It also manages epinephrine, which is the other major stress hormone. Every time the body releases cortisol in a minor stress situation, it is completely useless, yet it gives us a rush, a feeling of risk, fear, urge and later a crash. The more cortisol released, the less resilience our body has, and the more tired we are. As you can see, no good comes from that, but you already knew this.

What maybe you didn’t know is that all these daily small cortisol releases get trapped in our fatty and muscle tissues. They keep reminding our brain that there is cortisol in our body, creating something called “cortisol resistance”. Cortisol resistance is when our body can no longer distinguish if it is stressed or not because for our body “you are stressed since there is cortisol in your tissues.” The body simply feels the effects of stress all the time. Cortisol goes to work by weakening every organ and tissue in our body, it doesn’t leave anything out. The problem with stress or cortisol resistance is that often it appears as something else like anxiety, depression, or phobias. If you think you might be experiencing any of these symptoms, ask for help. We can’t do everything on our own.

Behavior Routine

Turn Off Survival Skills: On-Demand

Stress is part of our daily vocabulary, yet we don’t really know what the word implies nor the power we give up every time we mention it.

Our body is designed to evaluate the level of stress we have in order to calculate the effort our body needs to make to get through the stressful situation. 

Our ancestors were hunters, and always had to be alert to the possibility of being hunted by bigger predators.Therefore, their bodies developed two hormones that would help them to stay alert, to stay sharp, to be faster if there was a threat or be more creative with survival methods if the situation became life threatening in a split second.

Today it is very different. We are not hunters, at least our life doesn’t depend on it, but often we go into survival mode when we feel we are threatened in some way. 

Our mind can modify our health by changing the chemistry in our body.  Did you read that right? That’s amazing. Our brain chooses to release stress hormones or not. 

There are two parts to the human mind, conscious and subconscious.  We have control over our conscious mind, which is the one that manages thinking. When we have negative thoughts, however, our immune system responds more slowly.   When we have positive thinking, our immune system responds more quickly. These are actions completed through our subconscious mind.  

Let me tell you that the line of your thoughts is 100% your choice.  What takes time to change is the awareness and everyday practice of focusing on those positive thoughts.  Remember: you can change anytime you want. Make the right choice for yourself, everyone will benefit from it.  We can start working together on your personal goals and habits in one of our programs.  Make an appointment with me, and let’s get started.